I’ve Got The River!

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Refreshing current, first time upon me broke
when God’s Spirit indwelt me, in tongues I spoke.
I’ve got the river!

 

Sometimes it is a peaceful ride
with still pure water on the inside.
I’ve got the river!

 

On occasion it bubbles up merrily
and truly I know, verily, verily,
I’ve got the river!

 

Some days the waters wind and turn.
Perhaps there’s a lesson for me to learn.
I’ve got the river!

 

Other times it’s wild and exciting
Those spiritual rapids, I am riding.
I’ve got the river!

 

When I yield myself to its full control
the waves and billows sweep over my soul.
I’ve got the river!

 

This life giving water is for all to receive
if according to the Scriptures, you will believe.
You can have the river!

 

9/22/17

John 7:38-39 He that believeth on me, as the scripture hath said, out of his belly shall flow rivers of living water.
(But this spake he of the Spirit, which they that believe on him should receive: for the Holy Ghost was not yet given; because that Jesus was not yet glorified.)

John 4:14 But whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life.

John 16:13 Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come.

 

Act 2:1-4 And when the day of Pentecost was fully come, they were all with one accord in one place.
And suddenly there came a sound from heaven as of a rushing mighty wind, and it filled all the house where they were sitting.
And there appeared unto them cloven tongues like as of fire, and it sat upon each of them.
And they were all filled with the Holy Ghost, and began to speak with other tongues, as the Spirit gave them utterance.

Act 10:44-48 While Peter yet spake these words, the Holy Ghost fell on all them which heard the word.
And they of the circumcision which believed were astonished, as many as came with Peter, because that on the Gentiles also was poured out the gift of the Holy Ghost.
For they heard them speak with tongues, and magnify God. Then answered Peter,
Can any man forbid water, that these should not be baptized, which have received the Holy Ghost as well as we?
And he commanded them to be baptized in the name of the Lord. Then prayed they him to tarry certain days.

 

 

 

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I Should Not Have Looked, God Should Not Have Looked

This is dedicated to those who have ever messed up, and you feel that you have sinned so greatly that there is no hope for you. Thank God that He is merciful, and he will not turn away a truly repentant, broken and contrite heart!

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I should not have looked that fateful day.
I know that’s where it did start.
But I failed to turn my eyes away,
and lust conceived in my heart.

By her beauty I was taken.
My wicked heart, battle raged within.
Deceived by passion, I was mistaken.
With my neighbor’s wife I then did sin.

I thought perhaps none would find out
Of Bathsheba and I, defiled.
But my hopes one day gave way to doubt
when she told me that she was with child.

To my mind came a possibility to explore.
I thought it might improve my life.
Her husband I could bring home from the war
and let him spend some time with his wife.

Her husband, I did not realize
was a more honorable man than I.
My fool proof plot, it did capsize,
and here’s the reason why.

Uriah thought of those on the battlefield
who were paying the ultimate price.
To relations with his wife he would not yield
though no doubt he was enticed.

This left, I, David in a bind.
How could I cover my sin?
In the recesses of my mind
a sinister strategy formed within.

You could call it Murder I Wrote.
I had Uriah put in the battles heat.
To the army captain I sent a note
to draw back from Uriah, retreat.

And so faithful Uriah was slain
on that deplorable day,
and in my mind I did feign
with my sin I had gotten away.

But to make a long story short
God was kinder than He should have been.
He sent a prophet who brought me report
that indeed, I was guilty of sin.

Though God should not have looked with mercy on me,
I repented, and He gave me a new start.
It’s a miracle because later in Scripture we see
I’m called a man after God’s own heart!

5/31/17

The story of David, his sin with Bathsheba, murder of Uriah and the prophet coming to confront him with his sin are found in the Bible, 2 Samuel chapters 11 and 12.

This verse in the New Testament calls David a man after God's own heart.

“And when he had removed him, he raised up unto them David to be their king; to whom also he gave testimony, and said, I have found David the son of Jesse, a man after mine own heart, which shall fulfil all my will.” Acts 13:22 


 

The Verdict

Morning walks are often a
time to experience the beauty of
natural wonders. If one listens
closely, sounds of concealed
creatures may be heard.

The nimble lizards hidden within the bushes scurry as I pass.

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Plant life can be seen even
in some of the most populated
cities. A wide variety
of flowers add a sense of
grace and tranquility to
day time jaunts.

Bright tiger lilies adorning the green lawns of neighborhood homes.

The well tuned ear can
pick up the cheerful chirping chatter
of the
fowls of the air. Assorted
birds sometimes dot the sky
on their aviation adventures.

Bold Mr. Scrubjay begins his flight of fancy, bolts into the sky.

The sights,
the sounds,
and even the feel
of the wind present
evidence that is almost
overwhelming.
Nature
lifts her voice
and shouts against
the fallacy that the
earth’s intricacies are
a cosmic accident.

The verdict is in. He’s guilty of existing, the great Creator.

7/18/17

Good Riddance, Unwelcome Visitor

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A sudden knock on her door and
she wondered
who would be calling at such
a late hour.
Peering through the peephole
the man was well dressed and looked
vaguely familiar so she
made a hasty decision
to open the door. He greeted
her warmly and asked how
she was feeling. She thanked
him for asking and stated she
was fine. He looked at her
quizzically for what seemed an
inordinate amount of time and
then slowly asked, “Are you sure?”

At that moment her knees
felt weak and the heart palpitations
began. “Maybe you better sit down,” he suggested as
he came through the door, took her
hand and settled her on the couch. He started in telling
her that high blood pressure is serious. It
can lead to strokes and
heart attacks
and even
kill
you.

He went on for what
seemed hours, using his
words to paint the very
worst case health scenarios.
Although drained and feeling faint she suddenly
realized who he was. Several years
ago, he had walked down
the corridors of her mind,
had almost killed her.

What worked then would
work now.
With trembling voice she quoted
as many “fear nots”
as she could remember and
gradually
felt her strength return.
Finally, she arose, and with the
authority of that Saving Name,
rebuked the stunned figure
who went running
for the door.

Arrivederci, Anxiety!

6/28/17

Crown of Sonnets-Seven Things The Lord Hates

Proverbs 6:16-19  These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him:
A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood,
An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief,
A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.

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1. A Proud Look

It sadly leads a man to such disgrace.
A proud look first begins within the heart,
then manifests itself upon the face,
and to the soul, it’s like a piercing dart.

The Scripture mentions satan’s sin of pride.
He wanted so to be like the Most High.
It drove him, and it led him to decide
‘gainst God rebel, His holy will defy.

The lofty scheme of satan came to naught.
For one who thwarts God’s plan, it’s never well.
Devil’s pride like a web, and he got caught.
His destination is a burning hell.

If character of man toward pride is bent
the only remedy is to repent.

2. A Lying Tongue

The only remedy is to repent
if lying words from your lips do proceed.
Deceitful speech can cause a heart to rent;
is like sore wound inflicted that does bleed.

For uttered falsities, the price to pay
in Acts 5th chapter, story we do tell.
Husband and wife both lied on the same day,
died at apostles’ feet and went to hell.

Though judgment for our lies may not be swift,
God gives us time so that we can confess.
Be sure that with your Maker there’s a rift.
Continuing in lies leaves life a mess.

If telling of lies be your sinful plight
you best do a 180, get it right.

3. Hands That Shed Innocent Blood

You best do a 180, get it right
if you have caused death of the innocent.
Such acts, they are so grievous in God’s sight.
Taking of lives, for us it is not meant.

How sad to read the tale of Abel and Cain,
first murder ever, spawned by jealousy.
The anguish of a brother that was slain
caused both their parents untold misery.

Each day the countless deaths of the unborn
regarded as just tissue, swept away.
Oh how the heart of God must truly mourn
as precious lives are trashed like worthless clay!

The path of such a sin, where does it start?
It’s deep within the bowels of the heart.

4. An Heart That Deviseth Wicked Imaginations

It’s deep within the bowels of the heart
where thoughts of murder, rape and lust do spring.
Way down inside a man the crime does start.
The human heart is such a wicked thing.

Ill musings that are born of hate and greed
like venom that’s a poison to the soul,
when brooded on eventually will lead
to birthing of ungodly, evil goal.

The doing of all wrong first starts within.
It grows inside the heart before its birth;
does incubate and manifests as sin
and causes untold pain upon this earth.

Devising wicked imagination
bringing serious trepidation.

5. Feet That Be Swift In Running To Mischief

Bringing serious trepidation
feet that run fast to do an evil thing
to their victims, a source of frustration
through infractions such trouble they do bring.

They cause tribulation, pacing the streets
with purpose in mind, never to do well,
race to computer spewing vicious tweets
perhaps inspired by the imps of hell.

Their wily unrest mostly in the night
scarcely aided by flashlight or candle,
upon spoil of others they take flight
to pillage, steal, maim, destroy and vandal.

The ones possessing mischief running feet
from such evil ways they ought to retreat.

6. A False Witness That Speaketh Lies

From such evil ways they ought to retreat;
cease from character assassination.
Untruthful words they ought not to repeat
that ruin some poor soul’s reputation.

Some, they choose to speak such fabrication.
Do they think it might make self look better?
In the end it will be their damnation,
turning them into eternal debtors.

Don’t spin tales to make someone look bad
or secure a desired position.
It’s not worth it, and you will not be glad.
It leads to your personal perdition.

A false witness that speaketh cruel lies,
he is a foolish one that is not wise.

7. He That Soweth Discord Among Brethren

He is a foolish one that is not wise
sowing seeds of discontent and discord.
Maker of division, it’s no surprise
his subtle dealings, hated by the Lord.

When he feels to him, there has been offense
immediately to blabbing he does go.
To him it only makes perfect sense.
His perceived injustice all should now know.

The devil uses him to cause church splits
in assemblies that have sweet unity.
The discontented throws his hissy fits,
for turmoil makes opportunity.

When grumbler gets all up in your face
it sadly leads a man to such disgrace.

 

The Remedy

Sin

enslaves

grips the soul

like heavy chains

but Jesus can loose the binding shackles

if we will choose to obey the gospel

God’s Holy Word

when applied

makes us

free!

 

This type of poem is called a Double Tetractys. To see how to write one click the link.

http://www.shadowpoetry.com/resources/wip/tetractys.html

4/12/17

Acts 2:37,38  Now when they heard this, they were pricked in their heart, and said unto Peter and to the rest of the apostles, Men and brethren, what shall we do? 

Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost. 

Romans 6:17,18  But God be thanked, that ye were the servants of sin, but ye have obeyed from the heart that form of doctrine which was delivered you. 

Being then made free from sin, ye became the servants of righteousness. 

 

Hebrews 5:9  And being made perfect, he became the author of eternal salvation unto all them that obey him; 

If You Don’t Read This, We’re Not Getting Married!

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I don’t remember exactly where I was when he handed me the tract, but I still remember the shock I felt when I saw that capitalized word in bold orange print.

DIVORCE

Why would I want to read such a thing? I was engaged to be married to the man of my dreams, and I had been taught that divorce was practically a cuss word that should not be a part of my vocabulary. “No,” I replied, “I don’t want to read this.” My fiancée’s response stunned me for a moment. “If you don’t read this, we are not getting married!” he said with strong conviction. I knew he was serious, decided this must really be important, and so I read it.

I’m so glad that I did! We have been married for almost 34 years, and I have reread this tract several times over the years. I’m thankful for the godly principles that I learned through this pamphlet. The number one thing that has stuck with me is that love is a commitment. It is something that transcends feelings, which can be fickle things.

We made a commitment until death parts us in spite of

-moments when we may get angry at one another

-financial hardships

-the trials of life

-waking up in the morning with extreme dragon breath

-not being as drop dead gorgeous as we were in our youth(if we ever were really drop dead gorgeous-lol)

You get the picture.

The second most important thing that has remained with me is that my primary goal as a Christian wife is to help ensure that my husband is a success in the kingdom of God. If I am focusing  on doing what I can to help him be successful, and he is focusing on helping me to be a success in my relationship with the Lord, it leaves a lot less room for friction, fighting or fussing.

In reading the tract, there is a section where the author is counselling a woman on the phone who said she wanted a divorce. After the author explained these principles to her, they had a time of prayer while still on the call, and one of the things that the author prayed is that God would “burn these principles upon her heart and mind.” After reading the pamphlet for the first time, my husband to be and I talked, and we also prayed the same things: that the principles we read about would become a part of us and that we would never forget them. Since that time, God has reminded me on several occasions of that prayer and the tract that opened up my understanding to what love really is.

Through the means of copying and pasting, I am going to post that tract here. There are other things mentioned besides the two points I’ve written about here, such as things you should never say to your spouse and what to do if you think you’ve married the wrong person.  Whatever stage you are at in life, if you’d like to be married someday, if you’re currently married,   if  you’re engaged or if you’re divorced, I would encourage you to read this tract. Even if it doesn’t apply to you in your present situation, you might be able to share it with someone who could benefit from it.

My prayer is that it will be a blessing to you or someone that you care about and want to have a happy marriage.

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This article has been a long time coming. Just about every day we get letters asking us to tackle this subject. On several occasions we have planned to do a whole issue on it, but each time we began, we realized that the subjects and Scriptures involved were so heavily debated, and interpretations so varied, that we would just be stirring up a hornets’ nest to put “our” position in print. So we kept putting it off.

But as time has passed, we have become acutely aware of this tragic problem growing in the Church. First of all, my wife and I have many personal friends whose marriages have “fallen apart” during the past few years. These include many well-known Christian musicians and ministers. This has cut Melody and me to the heart as we have watched marriage after marriage disintegrate, hearing one excuse after the other why “we just couldn’t live together anymore…” Then we have watched while many of these people quickly got remarried, saying to us “Oh now I am really happy! God has really worked this out… Maybe it was His will all along!” Meanwhile somewhere, the former husband or wife is still aching, bleeding inside, and wondering, “What happened? Where do I stand now?” And then comes the guilt and torment.

We have also received letters from many wives and husbands begging us for help and advice on what to do. They paint the saddest pictures of fights and mistrust, broken promises, and worst of all – scared children who are innocently caught in the crossfire.

This article is not going to answer all your theological questions concerning divorce or remarriage: “Is it okay to do this?” “Am I allowed to do that?” “What if I’m already remarried?” These questions are among some of the hardest in scriptural study – and have been the cause of no end of debate among Bible scholars. The reason is because the Bible seems to be unclear in many of these areas. Of course “we” have an opinion on all of them (and so does every church on the block!), but we do not want to print merely opinion, we want to share rock-solid truth – ABSOLUTE truth! That is why this article is called “Everything You Should Know Before You Get A Divorce.”

We know that God clearly said, “I hate divorce!” (Mal. 2:16) And so we want to reach you before you make that fatal mistake. That is the best time to deal with sin – BEFORE it occurs. Sure God has made provision for repentance and healing, but the “who can’s” and “why s” involved in divorce and remarriage are so heavily debated in Church circles, we just want to stay out of the fray. (Please don’t write us and tell us what you think God will let you do; or “such and such a person can get a divorce and still be right with God.”) Frankly, the purpose of this article is not to deal with all the “what if’s.” We are interested in saving the marriages (and families) that are still able to be saved.

Just as Melody’s articles on abortion have been responsible for saving little human lives, we are praying that this article will save the family-lives of many homes, so that many little ones will be protected from the anguish of being brought up by separated parents – completely contrary to God’s expressed plan for the family in the Bible. It is never our purpose to “wrangle about words” (II Tim. 2:14), for “the letter kills, but the Spirit gives life.” (II Cor. 3:6) We want to spread the Spirit of Christ, who “came so you might have life, and have it more abundantly!” (John 10:10) It is this “life,” full of victorious battles and overcome trials, that we aim to share in this article. – Keith

Marriage Passion Or Patience?

Some time ago I received a phone call from a very sad brother who had been trying to get a hold of me by phone for many days. He shared that his wife was about to leave him, and she wouldn’t listen to him or their pastor, and just didn’t want to talk about it anymore. He said that the reason he was calling me was that she really liked our Newsletter and had a lot of respect for me and our ministry. He felt sure – that if I was willing, she would talk to me and maybe listen to reason. I told him that I would be glad to try to share with her. So he left the phone, and in a few moments she was there on the other end, sort of giggling nervously.

I said, “I hear you wanna go and get a divorce and end your marriage.”

“Yeah,” she said.

I said, “Why?”

She said, “Because I just don’t love him anymore… anyway, even if we get divorced, I can still serve the Lord, and so can he.”

“Well,” I said, “concerning ‘love,’ the Bible says wives should love their husbands. It doesn’t say you should ‘feel’ love, it says you should LOVE! Love isn’t a feeling, it isn’t ‘romance.’ It’s an action based on commitment. In fact, it is COMMITMENT!”

There was silence on the other end for a few seconds. Then she said, “No one ever told me that before. I thought that if I didn’t FEEL love toward my husband, then what’s the use of trying to “act” loving. What’s the use of pretending there’s hope for our marriage when I didn’t ‘love’ him anymore?”

“I understand,” I said. “The world has perverted the concept of love so badly that people go from one relationship to another, one marriage to another, simply because the ‘love’ feelings are gone. The simple truth is that those feelings were never ‘love’ in the first place! They were merely ‘romantic emotions’ that come and go with the wind. They’re based on moods and circumstances, but mostly on the excitement and mystique of a ‘new’ relationship. As soon as the “newness’ wears off, you find yourself sitting across the dinner table from just another human being – and that’s when the challenge begins. You’ve made a bunch of promises – and a commitment to love and live together ’till death do us part,’ – and now you’d better find out what this word ‘love’ really means, or there’s just no hope for your marriage!”

Just then another long-distance call came in on another line and I had to go, so I prayed with that woman, right there on the phone. In the prayer I asked God to “burn these principles into her mind,” so that wherever she turned, all she could see would be God’s commandment to “love your husband!”

Well God’s power truly fell on us during that prayer! This couple later visited with us and shared that God really healed their marriage. This woman reported that within one half hour after our phone call, she was weeping and praying with her husband. She said that I had asked God to “burn” my words into her mind, and that’s exactly what He did! She shared that she had never understood before that love was not a feeling or an option, but a commandment – an action and a choice to keep the commitment she had made to her husband and God that she would always love him. How free she seemed! She was no longer a slave to her “non-loving” feelings; she now understood that love was something that God had not only commanded her to do, but had enabled her to do. And the feelings came after the obedience! She said that whenever she did the loving thing, she really FELT love for her husband. How grateful Melody and I were as we saw their tears and praise to God. And as their two little girls played at our feet, we had more cause to rejoice that God had spared these little ones by keeping their daddy and mommy from destroying the family they had.

The Children

How many times have you heard this: “They’re just staying together for the children.” I remember the first time I heard that. I wasn’t a Christian at the time, and I thought, “What a drag! How can they keep a miserable relationship together just for those kids?” Well, my wife and I now have three little precious ones of our own to bring up in the love and fear of the Lord. I now can see the reasoning of these tormented parents. They might not be able to stand each other, but they both love their children so much that they wouldn’t dream of forcing them to relate to two different parents living in two different homes.

In our current “liberated” society, fewer and fewer people have unselfish standards. And unfortunately, this “me first” attitude is spilling over into the Church. Instead of couples having a primary concern for their children, they reason, “If I’m not happy, what’s the use in keeping my children happy?” “Why, it would be better for the children to live without all this arguing…” More times than not, many of those involved in divorce came from broken homes themselves, and they have promised themselves, “I’ll never do that to my kids!” And this only adds to the guilt and condemnation later if they get a divorce.

I am not suggesting that couples stay together merely because they have children. This, in itself is not enough of a reason to keep a shaky marriage together. Many people avoid dealing with the real problems in their marriages by using the “children” excuse as the “only” reason to stay together. Then they just continue despising each other in their hearts, and things grow worse. What I want to deal with now are some rules that will help you avoid ever having to deal with this question – “Should we get a divorce or stick it out?” – by replacing it with this question – “What can we do to overcome the problems we’re having in our marriage, so we can make a loving home for our family, and glorify God?”

Never Say “DIVORCE!”

Awhile back I was talking with my neighbor David Wilkerson, and he shared with me his burden for all the marriages that were breaking up in the Church. He told me of ministers and church leaders he knew who were throwing in the towel. Then he said something that really hit home. “You know, Keith, God has shown me a principle that would really save a lot of marriages from ending up in divorce. Words are powerful things, and I believe that Christians should be taught that there is one word they should avoid at all costs: Divorce!

I can remember when Melody and I first got married, even though we weren’t yet Christians, I always said that I never would consider divorce as an option. That way I would always be forced to work through any problem. When Mr. Wilkerson shared his principle with me, I knew it was the truth. “The tongue is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.” (James 3:8) I believe that married couples should consider “divorce” the dirtiest word in the English language. It should never be used. (Better yet, it should never be considered as even a remote possibility!) You wouldn’t consider murdering your own child if he was uncontrollable, would you? You would try to work it all out. Oh, things would be trying and difficult, and you might lose your temper, but you would never consider killing him! That’s exactly what divorce is – the murder of a marriage and a family. And talking divorce is talking murder! Thinking divorce is thinking murder. That’s the only way to consider it. You must never, NEVER use that word as a weapon in an argument. And if you’ve already been using it, STOP now! If you have your eye on the door, you’ll never be able to straighten things out. The sooner you stop thinking and talking divorce, the sooner an atmosphere of love and trust will begin to form between you and your mate.

Other Things You Shouldn’t Say

One of the most destructive things you can say to your husband or wife is, “Bill doesn’t do things like that…” or, “Connie keeps her house looking real nice!” Whatever you do, don’t compare your wife or husband to others to make a point. God didn’t give you to Bill, He gave you to your husband, so you’d better start being grateful and quit looking at and talking about the “greener grass” at Bill’s house. And God didn’t allow you to marry Connie, so quit using her as an example to make your wife look like a total slob. You must begin by accepting each other the way each of you are, and then work from there in love and patience. Pointing to other people’s supposed lack of problems will only hurt. Deal directly with the problem itself without bringing anyone or anything else into it.

But I Married The Wrong Person!

That might be very true! It’s extremely possible that you went ahead and married the first person you “fell in love with.” Or maybe you got married because you felt insecure and were thrilled that somebody actually wanted you! Whatever your story is, if you got married for any other reason than obedience to God, to glorify Him, it’s more than likely you married the wrong person (or at least the right person at the wrong time – for all the wrong reasons).

Now before you breathe a sigh of relief and call your lawyer, hold on a minute. Even though you might have made your marriage commitment to the wrong person, even for completely selfish reasons, it is STILL a commitment, and God wants you to honor it!

“When you make a vow to God, do not be late in paying it, for He takes no delight in fools. Pay what you vow! It is better that you should not vow than that you should vow and not keep it. Do not let your speech cause you to sin, and do not say in the presence of God that ‘it was a mistake.’ Why should God be angry on account of your words and destroy the work of your hands?” (Ecc. 5:4-6)

Even though it may be true that you got married completely out of God’s will, you must realize that it is now God’s will for you to admit your mistake, ask His forgiveness, and then by His grace, make your present marriage A GODLY ONE! Don’t think it’s okay to get a divorce by using that quasi-religious excuse: ‘”Well, NOW I’m going to obey God and just “un-marry” the one He didn’t want me to marry in the first place!” It might sound like a “spiritual” reason to you, but very few people are going to believe you’re getting a divorce to “please God” – especially you! (Not to mention God.)

There is a wonderful promise in Romans: “And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those that love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.” (Rom. 8:28) How many things? ALL THINGS! That’s right, even our mistakes, our blunders, our downright stupid errors! God is in the business of taking garbage and making it into jewels – look at Peter (whom the Lord had to rebuke so harshly – Mark 8:32-33), look at David (and his adultery with Bathsheba – who later became the mother of Solomon – the next king of Israel!), and look at YOU! Why, if God couldn’t take someone’s miserable, mistake-filled life and turn it around for blessing and growth, hardly anyone would go to heaven!

The Purpose Of Marriage

When Melody and I first became Christians, we had been married about a year and a half. We began going to a church that had quite a lot of teaching on marriage and the family. We were grateful for this, because we had had quite a few fights during our first year together. One of the things our pastor shared has stuck with us through it all.

He began his marriage series by telling us what God’s purpose for a Christian husband was: To make his wife a success in the Kingdom of God. And the purpose of the wife? You guessed it: To make her husband a success in the Kingdom of God! But what does this mean? Does it mean making sure your husband makes a lot of money, or gets a promotion at work? Not at all. It means that our main function in marriage is to be praying for, encouraging, counseling, and correcting each other in love, so that our mate will fully please God in all they do. This is one of the most exciting teachings about marriage I have heard! After all, love means to serve others for their good. We should have as our goal to make our husband or wife the best Christian possible – in prayer, in ministry, in attitude, in service, in giving, and especially, in loving! If you truly make this your goal, you will have no time for the selfish attitudes that have caused all the arguments you’ve ever had.

The Scriptures are full of riches on this subject.

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the Church, and gave Himself up for her; that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word, that He might present to Himself the Church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and blameless.” (Eph. 5:25-27)

This Scripture shows us that the husband should take the lead in all spiritual things as the head and priest of the household. There should be a daily time of prayer and reading of Scriptures together (as well as a time with the whole family if you have children). No couple can fight and stay bitter long, where there is a deep and sincere time of prayer together. (And beware – when you find you can’t or don’t want to pray, the enemy has got a strangle-hold on your relationship – true prayer is the surest way to loosen it!)

But for you wives who now are going to bring out the excuse that your husband is not the spiritual leader he should be, and that is why you feel there is no hope for your marriage, the Bible has some medicine for you as well . . .

“In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the Word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior.” (I Pet. 3:1-2)

Ah, the balance of the Word of God!

Finally… Love, Love And Love Again!

I cannot stress enough the principle that I shared with that woman on the phone who was convinced that divorce was the only answer because she didn’t “love her husband anymore.” Don’t fall for that trap! Love is not a feeling, it’s a commitment. I pray that God will burn this truth into your mind the same way He burned it into hers. (That’s what God means when He says, “I will write my laws upon their hearts,” Jer. 31:33. He wants our conscience always to be “bearing witness to the truth” – Rom. 2:15.)

Remember, God will not do your loving for you – YOU must love your husband or wife. That means choosing to do what’s best for them. It means not waiting for the right “feelings,” but doing the right and loving thing NOW – don’t worry, the right feelings will always follow the right action. Your marriage, your family, the body of Christ, and the cause of the Gospel depend upon you making the CHOICE to love – in all that you do.

“For love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things… let all that you do be done in love.” (I Cor. 13:7; 16:14)

 by Keith Green