Many years ago, I read a book called The Five Languages of Love by Gary Chapman. This book was designed to help married couples and went on to describe how that there are five basic “languages” or ways in which people communicate and receive love. These are the five that are listed by the author.
Words of affirmation
Acts of service
Words of affirmation people are those who seem to thrive on hearing or seeing the words “I love you” or any verbal or written compliments or expressions of love.
Quality time folks feel loved the most when someone gives them their undivided attention and just spends time being with them.
Those who speak the language of acts of service respond to those who do things to help them out or make their load a little lighter. It could be things such as vacuuming, running errands, making dinner, etc. etc.
A person whose primary love language is receiving gifts feels valued when they are given gifts. They don’t need to necessarily be pricey material things. A box of candy, a flower picked from a garden, a little something homemade, etc.
Physical touch is just as it sounds. These are the type of people that enjoy hugs and kisses, holding hands, a backrub, pat on the shoulder, etc.
The author went on to explain that problems can arise in a relationship when one person doesn’t understand how to express love in the language the other person understands. Fortunately, the author also tells how to identify your love language and the love language of your spouse in the hopes that this knowledge will help the couple to better communicate their love for one another. As I was musing over this book and remembering some of the things I read, I began to think about God and how He communicates His love toward mankind. While it may be difficult for us humans to communicate love in all these manners, God doesn’t have a problem speaking any one of these languages.
Do you respond to words of affirmation? God has given us a whole book in which we can read words about His great love for all of humanity and the lengths that He has gone to in order to prove His love. Thank God for the Bible!
Does quality time make you feel loved? God is willing to give you all the time you want. Jesus tells us in John 6:37 that if we come to Him, He will not cast us away. He is never to busy to spend time with someone who truly desires to fellowship with Him.
Acts of service? Jesus was the servant of servants according to Philippians 2:7. Jesus delights in helping us, bearing our burdens and lightening our load if we will but come to Him and ask.
Do you like to receive gifts? Jesus has a wonderful gift He would love to give you. It’s called the Holy Ghost. If you will just repent and be baptized in Jesus’ name as the Scripture teaches, you can have this wonderful, life changing gift!(Acts 2:38) It doesn’t wear out or get old either. It’s a gift that keeps on giving.
Does physical touch tickle your fancy? There is an incredible, tangible presence of God that you can feel for yourself. Feeling His presence starts with seeking after Him.
Acts 17:27 That they should seek the Lord, if haply they might feel after him, and find him, though he be not far from every one of us:
God understands us better than we understand ourselves. While we at times, may lack the ability to express love in a way another person can understand, there is no deficiency with God. Today He is speaking of His love for you in a language that you can understand. Are you listening?